The formula
Specific detail + playful comment + easy question. "You said you can't resist a good Sunday roast. Gravy first or Yorkshire first, and does your answer decide whether this goes anywhere?"
Do
- Keep it short, around two to four sentences.
- Mirror their tone.
- Be honest about what you're looking for.
Don't
- Open with "hey" or "hi."
- Send explicit messages straight away.
- Ask for photos, personal details or social media.
Keep it moving
Reply with substance, ask follow-ups, and move toward a plan when the conversation has momentum.
FAQs
What's a good opening message?
One that mentions something specific from their profile.
How soon should I flirt?
Match their energy and keep it light.
What if they don't reply?
Move on. One message is enough.