The four questions to align on
- What are you looking for? One-off, occasional, regular.
- How often can you meet? Availability is the biggest practical filter.
- What are your boundaries? Communication, public contact, social media.
- What happens if feelings change? Agree on honesty.
Green flags
Clear, respectful, consistent, and fine with going slowly.
Mismatch signs
Wanting something more serious than you do, pushing past boundaries, or vague answers about their situation.
FAQs
How do I know we want the same thing?
Ask directly. It's attractive, not awkward.
What if one of us wants more?
Say so early, and be ready to part ways kindly.
Do I need a "type"?
Not necessarily, but know your non-negotiables.