Decide, then do it
Dragging it out hurts both of you. Be sure, then say so once.
What to say
Short and honest, with no blame: "I've really enjoyed getting to know you, and I've decided to stop seeing you. I wish you well."
How to say it
- A call or message is fine, since meeting in person isn't always sensible.
- Don't invent reasons that give false hope.
- Don't leave the door open if you mean it to close.
Cut contact
- Mute, block or delete as agreed.
- Don't "just check in" later.
Privacy clean-up
- Delete chats, photos and shared files.
- Close your account on any dating platform you used, with its account-deletion option.
- Remove them from Telegram or Signal.
- Close or empty any separate email and payment accounts.
- Ask them to delete your photos too.
Look after yourself
Endings can bring up guilt, loss or relief. Talk to a trusted friend or a counsellor. Don't let a break-up push you into hasty decisions.
If they don't take it well
Hold your line, don't engage, keep records of any threats and use Guide 24.
FAQs
How do I end it without drama?
Be kind, clear and final, and cut contact.
Should I explain why?
A short, honest reason is enough.
What if they threaten to tell?
Don't negotiate. Keep evidence and report it.