The honest bit
Sexually transmitted infections don't care about discretion. Many have no symptoms. And a long-term partner who doesn't know about your new connection is exposed to the same risks without having made that choice.
Protection
- Condoms reduce most STI risks, not all. Use them correctly each time.
- Check expiry dates and carry your own.
- PrEP is an option for HIV prevention, and a clinician can advise on it.
- Vaccines for HPV and hepatitis A/B are worth asking about.
Testing
- Get a full screen before a new connection and regularly afterwards, often every three to six months, depending on activity and clinician advice.
- Private options: sexual health clinics, home test kits and online services. In the UK, NHS sexual health clinics are free and confidential.
Talking about it
Make it easy and matter-of-fact: "When did you last get tested? I had mine in [month]. I'm happy to share, and I'd like us both to be on top of it."
FAQs
Do condoms fully protect against STIs?
They greatly reduce risk but not entirely.
How often should I get tested?
Commonly every few months with new partners, but ask a clinician.
How do I raise it?
Directly and calmly, before things get heated.
This is general information, not medical advice. A sexual health clinic can give you advice tailored to you.