Red flags before meeting
- Refuses video calls or won't confirm details.
- Pressures you for photos, money or personal information.
- Stories that change.
- Rushes intimacy or moves you off-platform immediately.
- Gets angry when you set a boundary.
Red flags in person
- Looks different from their photos or details don't match.
- Pushes alcohol, or wants to move somewhere private fast.
- Ignores "no" or "not yet."
- Interested in who you are and where you live, more than you.
Your gut is data
It's pattern recognition. If something feels off, you don't have to figure out why.
How to leave
- "I'm not feeling this, so I'm going to head off."
- Go to staff if you need help.
- Block afterwards.
FAQs
What if I'm just nervous?
Nerves feel different from unease. If it's the latter, act on it.
Is it rude to leave?
No. Safety beats politeness.
Should I report them?
Yes, to the platform, and to police if you've been threatened or harmed.